People’s perception of being happy is still the same since ancient times.
Human beings might have come closer, because of improvement in technology and communication systems, but the mental distance seems to increase with every passing day.
No matter what we do, how much we try, sometimes it’s hard to make ourselves happy.
Our efforts seem to fail.
The idea of not being happy is for ages.
We feel low and unsatisfactory with our living. Get depressed at times.
But it’s okay to feel like that. We all do at a point in time. Our whole life consists of deliberate attempts to make ourselves happy.
Isn’t an irony, that even after pushing ourselves so hard, we fail at this?
We have to tackle so many stresses in a day. It becomes impossible to find an escape.
It’s okay to feel low and bad. Self-realization is vital.
Even I used to feel this way. But thankfully I had people to guide me through.
I could then see my faults, where I had gone wrong.
Why Am I Not Happy?
Here are some most common reasons why you may feel heavy-hearted, or you are unhappy.
- Lack of Self-Respect
- Lack of Self-Esteem
- High Expectations
- Addiction to Unhappiness
Being a happy person isn’t a one-day thing. It takes a proper understanding of your mind along with proper guidance.
Follow the two steps I’ve mentioned in this article. They worked for me and might help you too.
Step 1: I’ve listed down things that make us unhappy. Avoiding them could be a refuge.
Step 2: I’ve penned down the ways to follow after step 1.
Things to stay away from when nothing makes us feel happy:
1. Stop over-thinking:
Overthinkers generally tend to focus more on the future and the least in their present. Just realize one thing, if you die today, will there be any future? No. Right?
Let things just be. Don’t pressurize yourself over something. Mental stress is one of the ways one feels down. So stop doing that.
2. Stop watching awful news throughout the day:
News channels keep on highlighting awful news along with good news. If you focus on the bad and let go of the good, then your mindset is bound to change. It is your actions that are affecting you and not your fate. Switch to positive news and healthy options.
Stop blaming people for your actions:
Your actions are your deeds and you have committed and it’s your responsibility to accept that. Throwing garbage at people won’t make anything better for you. If you do such stuff, then try discontinuing them.
3. Stop sharing negativity:
Just because you don’t feel happy, you can’t make others feel the same. Again, this too won’t help you. This would only boost up your mental condition rather than satisfying you.
Stop wasting your time:
Don’t waste your time sitting on the couch, thinking that days will be like before, without doing anything. If you are unhappy about something, try to fix that. Being a waste won’t help.
4. Try finding the cause that’s causing the trouble:
Identifying the root cause is crucial when you are in some trouble. Try to make a list of things that you aren’t grateful for. It might be some person or some reason that is bothering you and stopping from being happy.
Sometimes the biggest problems lie within us, we just fail to see them.
It could be anyone from your family, relatives, friends, and colleagues, or even your partner, who is bothering you.
If you could find it out, half work would be already done.
5. Focus on how you can solve them (are they even solvable?):
Ask yourself and analyze properly if the trouble is solvable. It takes a great effort to do so.
After you know that they are easy to get rid of, you can make plans for curing them.
I know it’s hard to find solutions sometimes. But look closely.
Ask yourself. Is it the job? How to make it right then? Can you do it yourself? Or need someone’s guidance?
Once it is solved, move to solve the next.
Life is full of unpredictable troubles. But we can’t let go of life. We need to face our problems until they are gone.
6. Eat healthy and favorite foods:
Eating healthy foods will give you the necessary elements to boost up energy. Our brain needs the power to work. If we don’t eat healthily how come will it work and solve things for us?
Consuming favorite food adds to self-satisfaction. If your tummy is full of your favorite dishes, won’t you think differently? Think.
It also has a psychological impact on our decisions and actions.
7. Exercise, meditate, and do yoga:
Practicing yoga is a rich medicine for ages. Do it correctly. Watch youtube tutorials for methods. It acts as a stress reliever.
Exercise and mediation do the same things too. Exercising keeps our body fit and strong. Allows proper blood circulation and improves immunity.
These elements can help you to be strong from inside.
They help you boost out your positive energy.
Once you start practicing them daily for at least 30 minutes, you will be able to spot the difference.
Maintain a particular time for them. Slowly you will start loving your self-care techniques and reason to be happy about.
8. Donate and help the needy:
Often we waste so many things. We possess so much, that we don’t care what we lose.
If you are unhappy despite trying all methods, then you must haven’t tried helping people in their need.
Donate small amounts to funds that need attention and a lot of support. Feed poor people and street animals.
Helping others leaves us a feeling of immeasurable happiness. I bet, if you really do this, you won’t be sad again.
But of course, you should have the will to help.
9. Reach out for expert suggestions:
If you have already tried the above methods but still everything’s the same, then definitely run for therapy. Yes, you can go for a family or psychological therapy. It would depend on the seriousness of your condition.
If it’s too critical, then a month of therapy will work.
Often we get too involved in our work and monotonous routine that it becomes difficult to space out time for ourselves.
It is important to self-care. No matter how hard we work, if we are not able to cope up with it, it might not be worth it.
Deal with your problems. Don’t hide them.
Make the change.
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